Orgasm Denial - It’s Not Just Good For Guys

I’ve been reading a very interesting book called: “Cupid's Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships.”  It goes into some detail around the science of orgasm, most importantly the aftereffects of having an orgasm.

Being involved in Male Chastity and Orgasm Denial I’m quite aware of the after effects of an orgasm on the male psyche.  Having read the book I have a much clearer picture as to why we suffer from an “orgasm hangover.”  The neurochemicals involved are explained in quite some detail.

What was much more interesting though is that women aren’t immune to this…  Something I think the keyholders out there, subscribing to idea of as many orgasms as possible, should perhaps take note of and read the book…

Back In The Cage

My last post saw my wife on holiday for a week with her mother.  Since then things have been ticking along.  I’d hoped to get back into the swing of things Chastity wise but things have only really kicked into gear about two weeks ago.  That means that we’re firmly back into a new cycle of orgasm denial but, this time around things are different…

This biggest change is that we have no set periods of chastity.  Readers of my blog probably know that WIC is a firm believer in long periods of orgasm denial.  Given that we’ve proven that a very long 254 days is not an impossibility I can, with all honesty, say that I have no idea when my next orgasm will be.

Another change is that WIC has decided that she will not be giving me any milkings or even get close to ruined orgasms.  We’ll have a lot of sex – as can be expected much more that when I’m not being denied my orgasms – but when cum escapes my cock it will be when she decides to let my orgasm run its course.

[Reblog] The day your life changed forever

The day your life changed forever:

Separate Vacations

Having separate vacations suck.  I miss my wife.  For me it’s been a standard work week, get up, go to work and come back home.  The house is so empty and I have to make my own food.  There is simply something magical about getting home from work and sitting down to a meal with the love of my life and just being together.

From her side, it hasn’t been all roses either.  She went with her mom and even though they enjoy spending time together doing some mother daughter bonding, I can hear she is also very ready to come home.  Just one night without her and she’s back here where she belongs.

Catching up - 254

254.  The number of days I was denied before WIC allowed me to have an orgasm on New Years eve 2011.  It was a blast!  I cannot describe how good it felt.  I never knew what a mind-blowing orgasm was until then.  We did try for a full year but this time round we got to nine months.  I’m sure the biggest question out there is: “was it worth it?”

As far as I am concerned it was the most worthwhile thing I have ever done sexually.  It’s very difficult to explain and I’m sure only the people out there who are into chastity can really understand it but, being denied and teased to the point where you feel you are going to loose control of your body over an extended period of time, changes the way you experience pleasure.  When the release did come, I was ready for it.  I devoured every bit of sensation I got from our joined sexual organs.  WIC could see and feel me feed on the pleasure she gave me and seeing me enjoy her body so fully boosted her ego to no end.

I would say that for at least a month and a half my orgasms were better than I could ever remember them being.  Having regular sex eventually got my levels of sensation back to “normal” but, what didn’t change was the fact that each time we had sex it was so much easier to just give myself over to the pleasure.

Truth be told though, I’m not sure that I’ll commit to trying to remain chaste for as long as that again.  Not because of the chastity but because I think that from here on I’d like my wife to play a much bigger part in the direction of our chastity games.  I want her to want me locked up and ready for her whenever she needs me.  If I have an orgasm I want it to be her choice.  We still have to discuss some things but I want the choice over when the next orgasm will be to be in her hands.  I don’t need to know when it’ll be, only that she consciously made the decision and that she isn’t simply going with the motions but that this forms part of her frame of mind.

I think I’m over the testing the waters phase.  Chastity and Orgasm Denial is pretty much a cornerstone of our sexual relationship – but only if she needs it that way.  Note I said need and not simply want.  It’s easy to want something but when you need that thing you’ll take action to get it when it is required.  It’s probably what we all want in life… A partner that get’s as much out of our kinks as we do.

Catching up – The Kindle

It’s been a while since I have been into reading.  I used to devour books but the past few years from about 2009 has seen so much stress and drama enter our lives that I simply couldn’t get myself to really get into anything.  That has all changed!

End of November/Beginning December I bought myself a kindle.  What an amazing device it is!  I love the fact that it is connected to the Amazon shop all the time – I have the 3G version since Wi-Fi isn’t all that common here in South Africa.  Let me clarify that… free Wi-Fi isn’t all that common here and I don’t have any Wi-Fi set up at home which makes 3G a must have.

There has been so many great books that I’ve read so far but as far as erotica is concerned the story is a little different.  There are so much erotica available, a lot of it for free but the vast majority of it sucks.  Seriously, it’s no wonder that erotica has such a bad name in literary circles because most authors are simply bad!  Their stories boring rehashes of the same old thing we’ve been reading since a horny person put their hands to paper.  There have been a few gems here and there and I’ll create a page on this blog where I’ll list them.

The good thing about reading again is that it’s inspired me to write fiction again.  Let’s wait and see how that works out going forward.

It’s been far too long

I haven’t updated this block in close to two months an so much has happened during that time.  There have been radical changes to my personal life and more importantly as far as chastity is concerned.  So many things that I’m not going to be able to mention all of them in one post.  In my next few posts I’m going to start from the beginning.  But, just to keep things interesting know that I’m sitting in front of my PC, dressed in only a T-shirt and my CB6000s chastity cage having a glass of wine.  Wishing my wife, who I dropped at the airport this morning, is back here with me rather than on vacation with her mother.

Some Pictures

I'm doing the yearly thorough backup and ended up having some pics to share...

Christmas is here!

Today is my last day of work for the year before I go on leave.  Boy it couldn’t have come sooner.  Work and drama wise this year was a B-E-E-A-T-C-H and I’ve solidly had it with that.  It’s time to get on a plane and enjoy a relaxing holiday by the coast with nothing to worry about other that where we’ll decide to eat our next meal and whether or not I’m going to be drinking too much that evening.

But, chastity-wise things have been going better and better.  It’s been so long since I had an orgasm and I’ll have to wait until deep into next year before that is even going to be on the cards.  To easy my straining speen Christmas did come a little early this year and we bought a few toys to take on holiday.

1 x Lexington Steel replica dildo for WIC 

1 x Starp-on harness (+ a dildo to go with it) for WIC to use on me.

1 x CB6000s (we’re flying so I don’t want to have any weird shaped metal in the luggage) for me.

1 x XL Cobra Sheath for me to use on WIC.

As you can imagine I can’t wait to spend some quality time with WIC and all our goodies.  The CB6000s was a bit of an impulsive buy because, as you know I never really liked the idea of a plastic chastity device.  Here’s some public humiliation for you.

I was wrong!  There is very little wrong with the CB6000s.  I take back any insinuations that plastic is beneath me.

 

It’s comfy and snug.  Even though I don’t qualify as small I’m able to get myself into the tube when soft and once in have very little to complain about.  The device is very light and it doesn’t move down when worn for a long time.  Another convert is WIC who also didn’t like the idea of the CB but has since decided that it is the best device to date because she can see her speen even though it is totally encased.

I’m still pining for a Steelheart but for now I’m very happy as I can wear the CB for extended periods of time and I expect to be in it for quite a few days on end while on holiday.

To everyone reading this, have a wonderful festive season.  Don’t drink and drive – pick the one you want to do and make sure you do it well.  I may post during holiday, depending on notebook and internet availability but if not I’ll be back in the new year.

When You Get What You Whished For

Sarah Jameson often reminds us that: “we should be careful what we wish for.”  Sound advice indeed.  But, just because we should be careful about wanting something does not guarantee that we will end up feeling that we shouldn’t have gotten it.  Achieving those things we have wished for, worked for, made ourselves deserving of and finally taken, while still retaining your original desire for, are sweeter than anything those who have never dared follow their hearts can ever know.

In the movie Sucker Punch the wise man said the following:

For those who fight for it, life has a flavour the sheltered will never know.

Sucker Punch (2011)

Robert Anthony’s caption “I know we agreed to two months…” reminded me of those moments where I have experienced the joy of having gotten what I have wished for. 

One of those moments happen when its simply my wife and I talking.  No role-playing, no fantasies just us - two people being themselves.  Then, in those moments when she shares with me how much she enjoys the experience of orgasm denial and with no prompting from anyone other than herself shares with me how much she’d like me to remain so.  Nothing get’s me as hot as knowing this is real.  I got what I wished for and she loves what I have wanted as much as I do.